Positive Parent-Child Interactions
the secret of communicating well with your child about school, especially when
the child might be having problems in the classroom?
Author Marc Fey of Focus on the Family contends that the
key is to create a home environment with three characteristics: acceptance,
firmness, and autonomy. They have been tied to school success, he says. When
they are in place in a home, school problems get solved a whole lot more easily
than in other kinds of homes.
Here are his suggestions for how to make a
child feel accepted:
affirmation and praise.
- Be available and listening when your
child comes to you with a problem, no matter how tired or stressed out you
yourself on issues so that you can offer effective guidance and
Here are ways to be firm:
- Clear rules.
consequences for breaking them.
expectations for maturity and responsibility.
Finally, here's how to build your child's autonomy,
and encourage individuality.
- Ask for
and value a child's opinion.
the child to express himself or herself.
more advice on
parenting from this author and from the website of Focus on the Family, www.family.org