Opt-Out Form to Avoid Bad Sex-Ed
have gradually told our daughter about sex. She's now 11, and does know the
facts of life. We've discussed how great it would be for her to stay a virgin
until she's married. We want her to be up to speed on all health issues,
including sex, but we don't want her to get into the R-rated stuff or anything
that's too coarse or graphic or off the mainstream. It sounds like school sex
ed class gets in to that stuff a lot. So what the heck should we do?
the wacky world of values clarification, situational ethics, moral relativism
and propaganda. Isn't it crazy that people with views like yours are the ones
being painted as the weirdos and troublemakers? But of course, your view is the
"right" view, from the point of view of freedom of speech, teenage health, and
plain, old-fashioned courtesy and common sense.
thing you can do is to let it be known in your school and your district that
you prefer "abstinence-based" sex education, not "comprehensive," which covers
a wide range of controversial and often offensive topics going 'way beyond the
health education required by most state statutes.
photos of sex organs with sexually-transmitted disease, or AIDS or HIV "prevention"
discussions or classes, in which the WAY that many people contract that
sexually-transmitted disease is discussed. If you don't want your child to see
pictures of sex organs or know about anal sex, oral sex, and so forth, you need
to be pro-active with your school and opt your child out of that whole mess.
Be sure to download the opt-out
form, below, sign it, and give it to your child's school principal. If your
child's school or any teacher breaches the conditions set out in the letter,
you can sue them. Hopefully, just having the letter on file will go a long way
toward preventing any kind of ugliness like that.
should share the letter with other parents to offer them the same opportunity,
and send copies to your elected school-board members.
If you get a hold of some raunchy
sex ed curriculum - often, the worst stuff is in the teacher's manual and
supplemental materials - and if you're bold, then go to the school board
meeting and have a school board member read the raunchy material aloud. That
should get these adults to realize the impact of this material, provided at
taxpayer expense, into the minds and hearts of children and youth.
Another good idea is to ask your
school board to reconfigure sex ed in your district so that parents can opt
their children IN to the classes that cover anything that goes beyond the
bare-bones "birds and bees," including condoms, STDs, homosexuality and so
forth. If they don't opt their child in to that sex ed class, then the child
will automatically be enrolled in the "basics" class, which can be
abstinence-based under most state laws. This opt-in format would stop forcing
parents like you to have to opt their child OUT of the class to avoid that kind
It's a good
idea to check your state statutes on health education to see what schools are
REQUIRED to teach children. Most of what is so objectionable in sex ed
curricula these days goes 'way beyond the basics that schools are required by
law to teach, so there's room for hope that they can cut out the bad stuff.
Last, if you're really diligent, you
could go to the school and ask to see the sex ed curriculum for the rest of
your child's school career, even years in advance, including the teacher's
manual and any supplemental materials.
Quote verbatim any objectionable
passages and use them in your school board appearance, a letter to other
parents, or even an op-ed to the local newspaper with the link, below, and your
thoughts on sex ed.
Homework: Here is an opt out form you
can use from the Pacific Justice Institute. Please go to their website and
search for Student Exemption Resources, fill out a brief form, and obtain more
help in this important arena:
this form on file will also help protect your child from nasty, invasive and
often disturbing surveys that schools often give students without expressed
another good form to have on file: