Ten Mistakes Parents
That Create a
always give your child everything he wants, when he wants it? It's much better
to make your child wait, and learn to work to earn his desires. Why does a
little child need "diversions" and "amusements" like a mountain of toys and all
kinds of TV and computer equipment? What stresses and problems does a little
child need "diversion" from?
allow your child to interrupt your adult conversations, in person or on the
phone? That teaches her that she's the center of the universe, more important
than anyone and anything else.
your child call to you from across the house or the playground, and you run to
him? Unless it's a real emergency, always require your child to come to you, and
politely get your attention.
cut her bread crusts off her sandwiches? Why? She's "running" you, then. Stop
have a chores chart, with a simple list of daily chores your child must do? If
not, why not?
your child make his bed and keep his room clean? If not, he shouldn't be
allowed out of his room, from about age 3 on. That's the "ticket" to start the
your child whine, scream, swear, sulk, pout, or blurt out comments? Discipline
her every time with a "time out," or it's going to get worse.
your child ordered chicken fingers each of the last 42 times you've gone out to
dinner? Why are you letting a tiny child make decisions about nutrition that
are obviously bad choices? Exercise your parental prerogative, and order for
him next time.
your child insist on selecting what to wear, which items to eat off his dinner
plate, where to sit at the table, what game to play, and every other possible
decision during the day? Why should your child have that much power? It teaches
her that she is her own authority, and that you, her parents, have no
10. Does your child resist bedtime, and
keep popping out of bed with phony excuses and so forth? See #9. They usually
Do you see
many of these patterns going on in your home? Don't worry; they're fairly
common. And you can stop it, starting now. It starts with setting clear
standards and limits, enforcing clear consequences, and being loving and kind
and most of all, firm.