Teaching a Child to Be
there's a problem with another person, are you teaching your child to make
peace - or war? You don't want your child to be overly aggressive or an
attacker. Neither do you want him or her to be a doormat - too passive and
withdrawing upon the first sign of a difference of opinion.
some great tips from the book, Peacemaking
For Families by Ken Sande:
Conflict is a
slippery slope. If you let conflict fester and stay alive, things just get worse and
Conflict starts in the heart. We decide whether to be obedient or disobedient, wise or
foolish, caring or unloving. We have the choice to make a good choice that can
really affect the outcome of any situation.
Choices have consequences. We can only control our own choices, but we must remember
that the choices we make will affect us and others. Conflict is often the
consequence of a choice we have made.
Wise-way choices are better than my-way choices. Selfishness is not smart and will
not lead to happiness. The wise way is to obey authority, make right choices,
seek good advice and respect others.
The blame game makes conflict worse. You can't blame someone else or ignore your own role in any
kind of disagreement. That's not responsible.
an opportunity. Handling it well gives us a chance
to serve others, model leadership, and become better people.